I achieved a pretty big milestone in the last month or so as I managed to successfully reach two years in my current ‘job’ as a stay-at-home Dad. I say “successfully” because the aim was to get both munchkins and myself through it with no major injuries or fatalities.
As I’ve reached this landmark, I’ve been thinking about the good, the bad and the ugly parts of being a stay-at-home parent. When the inspiration for this post came to me I thought about doing three separate posts talking about each topic, but the ‘ugly’ part is probably obvious by my general appearance. Instead I thought I’d just cover the good and the bloody amazing parts…the bad can wait until I’ve stopped rocking in a corner since the last toddler tantrum about her Ipad being low on battery!
Spending time with the girls
Being a stay-at-home parent means that you get to spend a lot of time with your children. Although tough, this really is one of the best parts. Time is a precious thing, so I’d much rather spend mine playing with and developing the little one rather than doing other stuff like being at ‘real’ work. I know not everyone has this opportunity and I’m guilty of taking it for granted sometimes: choosing the laptop or phone over them and putting Cbeebies on just for five minutes peace – however I hope that constantly being around is a good thing and is something they’ll appreciate in the future.
One of the best things is seeing them develop. In two years, Olivia (now 2.5) has transformed from a baby who’d just learnt to crawl to an actual, all singing, all dancing, all day long chatting, little girl. She’s got her own little personality, she’s learnt to communicate and she knows what she likes and dislikes. Knowing that the time I’ve spent with her as helped turn her into this amazing little girl is pretty awesome.
That’s right, you heard me, one of the best points about being a stay-at-home parent is that you don’t have to work. Sure, it’s hard work – but it’s not the same as having a job. My boss comes in the shape of two small girls who have me wrapped around their little fingers, and I’m paid in endless pooey nappies and sicky kisses.
No more commuting. No more conference calls. No more wearing suits. No more ‘Living the values.’ Yes, being at home still has pressures and stresses but they’re different to those of being employed. Having children shows you that some of the things we get so stressed about at work really don’t matter in the grand scheme of things.
Catching Up On Box sets
I’m a big fan of watching TV. I probably shouldn’t as it sets a bad example. I tend to have it on as background noise during the day, then properly watch something when the munchkins nap. I’ve got through quite a few box sets and shows over the last couple of years. Something I’d not be able to do if I wasn’t at home, obviously.
I’m a huge superhero fan, but because the missus doesn’t like watching them at all, I’ve found these are the perfect programmes for during the day. I’ve watched a number of shows including Daredevil, Jessica Jones, Luke Cage, Iron Fist, Agents Of Shield, Arrow, Flash, Super-girl and Legends of Tomorrow, to name a few. Then there’s the stuff that me and the missus watch together on an evening like The Office (English and American), Man Down, The Fall, Line of Duty, Bones, to name a few more.
Maybe I need to cut down on the amount of TV I watch…
So they’re three of the many things I think are good as a stay-at-home dad. Remember to check back for the bad points which will be hitting the blog in the near future. If you’re a stay-at-home parent, can you relate to any of these points? What do you see as being the good points about being at home with your child?