Yes, it’s definitely all right. Surely, what matters more is how you feel about it, right?
Robyn is coming up to that age now where she is paying much more attention to whether she or anyone else has clothes on. She has started to develop a sense of herself as a separate person, which includes a being aware of what he body does and doesn’t have. This includes other peoples bodies too. I can remember Olivia doing the same when she was around this age. The fascination soon wears off though.
The question is, am I comfortable with my kids seeing me naked? Yes, absolutely! I would like to think we are very open with nudity, I see it as a way to teach my children to accept and take pride in their own bodies and to show that bodies come in all different shapes and sizes. I am however aware of the other side of the argument. Some parents feel it’s really only okay for their kids to see the body of the parent of the same sex and then there are the ones who think any nudity in front of their kids is wrong.
With that thought In mind, Is there a cut off point? Is there an age where you should stop being naked in front of your children? If there is, what age should that be?
To be honest, I’m not sure there is an exact age. At the moment we still able to prance from the shower to the bedroom without a towel on and they are utterly oblivious to anything going on around them. However, what happens when they see me in the shower and start to point at my gentleman bits or Rachel’s lady parts? What do I do then? Is it at that point is wise to cover up? I’m not sure that’s the way I want to deal with it. Surely it’s better to teach them things like honour closes doors, what things we don’t do in front of others and which parts of your bodies are private. Taking this approach or a similar one fits in better with my open and honest approach to parenting.
If they point to a part of my body or in Robyn case, poke it. I’m going to take the approach that I’ve always taken when it comes to parenting, I’m going, to be honest. I’m going to explain what it is and what it’s used for. I’m going to explain what a boy has this and a girl has it because what’s the point in lying? There’s no point in saying anything but the truth? For me, it’s all about making that information age appropriate.
It’s the same approach that made me utter the phrase poorly penis when explaining to Olivia why she couldn’t claim on my knee after I’d had my vasectomy. After explaining that Daddy’s penis was poorly, that was all she needed to know and didn’t try to claim on my me again until I said it was ok.
Privacy may be different in your house, depending on the ages of your children, your culture, and your beliefs but in our house, we walk from the shower to the bedroom without a towel. So until the girls get to an age where I feel like I need to cover up we will continue to bare all, wobbly bums included.
What is privacy like in your house? What are your views on being naked around your children? Let me know in the comments below