Parenting in the modern age should be a walk in the park, right? With all the modern technology we have at our fingertips, all the baby aids that are available on the market and all the parenting advice books you see in the shops and online. We all should be able to parent with our eyes closed. Which would be completely true if we weren’t all trying to keep up with each other or worrying about what other parents are doing or how their family set up works because we don’t think it should be done that way.
Being a modern day parent is complicated at best, rewarding, but exceptionally hard work all at the same time. It isn’t just the actual parenting part that is complicated either. It is the way we as parents are perceived by other parents. There is no such thing as a typical Mum or a typical Dad anymore. It feels like we are expected to be everything to everyone all of the time. We are criticised no matter what family arrangement we have and no matter what our work/life balance is.
Worrying about trying to be the perfect parent makes it harder to be a good one. Sometimes It feels like your damned if we do and damned if you don’t. For example, whether you work full time or work part-time and care for their children in between, there’s always be someone who’ll have a criticism over something your doing. Even if your a full-time stay-at-home parent or a work from home parent who also looks after your children, they’ll be a negative comment somewhere or an opinion that must be voiced by someone. Whether you want to hear it or not.
Modern parents are in a vicious cycle of doing what you should do and what others think you should do and sometimes we get little respect from all other parents whichever way around we do it. We all want the respect we deserve and yet no one is able to be respectful to others.
Yet, we easily forget, for whatever reason, those parents we look at in that disapproving way have made these choices themselves, to suits the needs of their family or to fit the particular situation they have found themselves in. As modern parents are always being told we can have it all, so why can’t we just get on with it instead of being told we’re getting it wrong.
For once, I am looking on the positive side and starting to look at all the good things that parents are doing and applaud them for it. Being a Dad blogger I am seeing plenty of evidence of parents doing good things and that’s awesome. I’m sure that every generation has its challenges and there are so many awesome things about being a modern-day parent, things that I wouldn’t change for the world. Nothing about modern parenting is easy but the bottom line is, it’s still awesome!
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