Thinking Differently About Work / Life Balance

Life is just one big rush at the moment. With having a wife who works long hours, two girls under four, four dogs, working a part-time job, writing a blog, running a business and trying to fit everything else in between. It’s been all work and no play for a quite a while now, and unfortunately, Olivia and Robyn have been getting the rubbish end of the stick. All I can say is, thank god for CBeebies and YouTube. We need a better work life balance, and fast!

As a family we have a million things going on, too many to count sometimes and with so many plates spinning all at once it’s easy to get overwhelmed. My energy gets sapped and I have to work extra hard to produce my best work. Can you relate?

I have read countless online blog posts and articles about work-life balance: what it is, how to achieve it, how to measure it, etc. Amazon has almost 2000 book titles on this subject! and the only thing I can figured out is that, like me, everyone is searching for the ideal Work-Life Balance. So the question I have is, does it exist?

| I also realise that the “too much to do” problem can sometimes be our own fault!

What I mean when I say it’s my own fault? I mean, maybe I’m thinking about it all wrong. From what I’ve been reading, this is something that a lot of people struggle with.

One of my first thoughts I had about work-life balance is that most people have the wrong idea of what it actually means. They think that their whole life should be balanced. That they should have a little bit of time for work, a little bit of time for play and a little bit of time on the weekends, in order to improve their quality of life. I think the real question I should be asking myself is, What do I really want to do with my life?

Now put aside time actually spent at work, the real problem comes down to what you accomplish while you’re at work. Most people spend a lot of time doing non-work related activities instead of being productive. These might include browsing social media, checking emails, taking long lunch breaks, and chatting with co-workers. When these activities turn into habits, it becomes harder to get all of your work done in order to focus on other aspects of your life. I believe this is were my problems are coming from. It hasn’t got anything to do with how much I have to do but how well I manage my time in order to achieve the things I need to achieve.

Being a stay-at-dad to my girls will always be my main priority but helping Rachel to build and run a successful business, while at the same time expanding my own blog is where I need to be a little better at managing my own time. Choosing to manage my time more effectively is the starting point of overcoming my increasing workload and returning to a happier state of mind.

By doing this, hopefully I’ll get on top of my dad-to-day tasks and I’ll sit down feeling accomplished at the end of your day. When I don’t have lingering tasks to worry about, because I’ve worked as hard as I could during day, I’ll be left with plenty of quality time to spend with my family.

Hang on a minute though, I’m forgetting one thing. I’m still a parent and a lot of the time I get detracted by the constant sound of “Daddy!” in my ear. So I guess my new mentality will have to be a work in progress.

Do you procrastinate to avoid getting the more important tasks done? Let me know in the comments below

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Categories: Life and Parenting

2 replies

  1. This is an issue of this age. I have recently decided to drop some of the things I have always done but not enjoyed – life is too short to balance everything as I was doing – so now I try to finish each day feeling happy it’s been a good day. I’m naturally a productive person so could easily work myself miserably into the ground – now I’m more rested and happier trying not to balance EVERYTHING x

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  2. Finding the balance is so difficult and in truth we constantly get it wrong but as long as your kids know you Re there for them I think that’s all that matters Thank you for linking to #Thatfridaylinky please come back next week

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